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98. Your ex shows up as your “best match” in a dating website

After all, you both had some stuff in common ..right?

You get out of a relationship. After a while,  your friends begin to remind you that being alone is not the only option. They set you up with people, they take you out places, and introduce you to many people that just don’t fit your idea of a new partner. You’d think they would give up after failing ten or fifteen times, but they’re stubborn.

Then you get that one friend that discreetly tells you that she once tried online dating, and that she had a good experience with it. Then, of course, you pretend like it never crossed your mind and also act like you need some convincing. Fortunately for you, she actually tries to convince  you and even sets up your account for you.

So trying to keep it semi-secret, you only log in when you’re at home by yourself and make sure that nobody looks over your shoulder while you’re reading all of the “Welcome to DateZoo!” (completely made up, it might actually be a website though) emails, the set up communications, and the promotional upgrades:

“For only 4.95 a month, we give you hotter people! While supplies last.

 Here is how a dating site works:

  • Set up an account, highlight your good qualities and hide your bad ones in text.
  • Pick a good profile picture, even if its you before you gained weight six months ago.
  • The website finds people that have things in common with you, and they show up as matches and even gives it an easy-to-read rating so you can go through fifty people in a couple of minutes.
  • Contact the person you’re interested in. If you get no response, don’t worry; it will happen often.

In looking through so many different profiles, you are bound to find other people who are also living the secret dating site life (some who might even already have committed relationships ..shame on you!) but it gets even more awkward when your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend shows up as your best match.

Unfortunately, they probably see your picture on their homepage as well. Eh, at least you’ll have something to talk about once you bump into each other at the grocery store.

Have you ever had an awkward experience with a dating site?

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  1. Yup. My ex did come up as a match for me in online dating…I wish there was a way to block certain people’s existence on those sites. But even more awkward was seeing a match with a strange co-worker…who obviously also saw me listed as a match for them. Yikes!

    November 3, 2011
    • HAHA a “Strange” co-worker! That is just too awesome.

      Someone has to do something about the ex-showing-up thing on those websites, seriously!

      Thanks for the comment!


      November 3, 2011
  2. I dated a girl off a site before. I also made a friend off of one (he contacted me!). We all hung out one time and when he left she told me that she recognized him. He had apparently contacted her on the dating website. I stopped talking to them both 2 weeks later.

    I’m always a little afraid that someone might stumble upon my old profile.

    November 3, 2011
    • Talk about an awkward situation.. I think you should find it and delete it 🙂

      November 3, 2011
  3. Now that would be awkward! I’ve never used a dating service or site. I’m divorced and was prepared to spend the rest of my days alone after 27 years of not being able to express who I really am. As luck would have it, a wonderful man who I knew from college came into my life and is now a permanent fixture. Never planned it, but it’s divine!

    November 4, 2011
  4. chunter #

    I gave my current fiancee a choice between my phone number, email address, and a number of different internet instant messaging systems. When she reached me, she chose AIM.

    I’ve met lots of people through the internet (though not with the purpose of dating/courting, although I’ve had some rather deep relationships happen anyway) so I’ve picked up a bunch of proverbial “rules of the road” for meeting someone from cyberspace in the proverbial real-life.

    I once overheard a woman saying that she found an email from addressed to her husband.

    This topic brings to mind a news story about a French man who accidentally met with a woman from a dating site at the beach… to discover that it was his mother. The article says they just had a laugh and went home. I tried to find the source, but couldn’t.

    See also “Escape,” aka. the Pina Colada Song.

    November 4, 2011

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